Managing Kids At A Wedding

By David Trumble

Why leave little ones out of your wedding? They can add so much to the excitement and fun of your wedding.

Chaos, confusion, noise, distraction, and disruption may all describe the typical scene when kids attend an adult event and are left to their devices. An unsupervised child is just looking for trouble.

The kids are coming! The kids are coming! Now what?

Suggestion : Separate and Isolate. It is often quite easy to set up a separate room for infants, toddlers, and small children. You can recruit someone to take charge of the kids and care for them while their parents are participating in the wedding. Still, some parents will insist on keeping their babies with them.

Do not just isolate the children, plan exciting and age appropriate activities to keep them involved. The more engaged little ones are; the happier they are. You want happy children. Unhappy little ones emerge when left to their own devices.

Can you imagine what it would be like four or five years after your marriage celebration to have older kids reminiscing over a fantastic kids event you held at your wedding? Instead, of thinking just of the usual childcare issues, think outside the box. Imagine a fantastic kids event maybe with magic, music, or friendly clowns. You can make a big impact.

A blended family may find it especially meaningful to include the children in responding to the pledges by adding an appropriate set of questions to the parents and then to the children. The little ones respond "I do".

The children of blended families need to be included if at all possible in the special event vows that include children. The marriage celebration is launching a marriage, but it is also launching a family. Therefore it is appropriate to include the kids in the wedding vows.

Your special event reception can be an exciting family event by including the children in your activities. Be sure to protect them from potentially inappropriate situations. Provide added activity supports like coloring books for smaller children, but be sure to include the kids in as much of the activity as possible including the dancing. This is not only cute to watch, and could be entertaining as well, but it will bring a smile to the face of every grandma and grandpa present.

Little ones want to be loved, appreciated, noticed, and included. They are eager to help out in whatever way adults can imagine. So, give them special things to do. Tap their energies. Let them feel they are making a contribution as well. They might help decorate, hand out flowers, distribute programs, and anything else you can imagine.

If kids arrive at your wedding unexpectedly, just relax. Remember family does include children. In most cases, if a guest brings their children, they expect to take responsibility for them. It might be a good idea to ask one of your ushers to be alert and offer assistance if needed, but look to the parent to care for their children and just enjoy having your family and friends together. - 30299

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